Me and My Toxic Boss
My colleague sent me the story below as one that is applicable to our boss:
In “Brutal Bosses and Their Prey” (1996, Riverhead Books), Harvey Hornstein identifies six types of bad bosses: Conquerors (classic schoolyard bullies) – They’re concerned with power. Make you feel small. Expect you to genuflect or, at the very least, kiss their rings. Performers (constantly threatened bullies) – They attack anyone who seems to be competitive. This type of boss puts negative comments in your personnel file without telling you. Manipulators (take-credit-for-your-ideas bullies) – They smear you. Take credit for your ideas. Blame their failures on you.Dehumanizers (people-are-numbers bullies) – They treat you like a robot because it’s easier to abuse a thing than a person.Blamers (you-deserved-it bullies) – When they reprimand you, they take comfort in the fiction that you deserved what happened to you.Rationalizers (abuse-for-a-greater-cause bullies) – They vilify you supposedly for your own good. Or for the company’s.As I read the above, I checked off every one of the descriptors as applicable to our boss. It's true, she belongs to every single category and perhaps more! But why don't I leave you ask? At the moment, my work visa is tied down to this company and I am working on my GC. As soon as that is approved, I will have options. For now, I am learning a lot of humbling lessons about turning the other cheek. Pity I only have two. But, I am also learning what it means to be a blessing to unlikely and unsuspecting people.